The NT is clear that I am to pray in God’s will. How do I learn or know what His will is for the things that burden my heart? This is the standard answer: “To discern God's will, one must engage in a combination of prayer, Bible study, and seeking wisdom from others, while remaining open to God's guidance through the Holy Spirit. This process involves aligning personal desires with God's revealed will in Scripture and trusting Him to lead and direct one's path.”
From observation and personal experience, I realize that if human desire is strong, it might be based on God’s will (like jumping in the river to rescue a drowning child) or it might be their own will and contrary to God’s will. For example, wanting the neighbor’s husband or to destroy a parent who is abusing me (neither are true in my life). The key is to recognize my own wants and not making them the focus of my requests.
But there is another explanation for missing the will of God and that is not praying very often so missing out on how to listen for His gentle instructions. Piper says this:
The disciples had been unable to cast out an unclean spirit from an afflicted boy. Jesus came on the scene and cast it out. The disciples ask, “Why could we not cast it out?” Jesus answers, “This kind cannot be driven out by anything but prayer.” There are spiritual forces that Jesus says are very hard to overcome. His disciples asked why they could not overcome the evil. Jesus answered, “Insufficient prayer!” What did he mean? Probably not that they hadn’t prayed over the demonized boy; it seems that would have been the first and basic approach. Probably he means that they had not lived in prayer. They had been caught in a prayerless period of life or a prayerless frame of mind. Notice that Jesus cast out the demon without praying: “You dumb and deaf spirit, I command you, come out of him, and never enter him again” (Mark 9:17-25). Yet Jesus had prayed. He lived in prayer.After yesterday’s revelation about the way God works, I’m now realizing how many times I’ve not known the will of God and asked Him to surprise me, then discovered His will by what happened next. It was always something I’d never thought of to ask for. Sometimes I’ve felt like this combo of “surprise me” and the result made me a spoiled brat because His answers have always been an unexpected and incredible blessing!
What does all this say about praying in His will? Sometimes, from what the Bible says, I know what it is. Love and do good to others. Honor my parents. Be faithful to my dear hubby. I also know what is not God’s will… but not always. An elderly friend is ill. Is this calling for a prayer of healing? Or is this God’s way of taking her home? I know what I want, but do I know what God wants? One thing is clear; when I say “Your will be done” it isn’t something nice to tack on the end of my prayers. I had better mean it, be prepared for whatever He does, and often prepared to experience a surprise.
PRAY: Jesus, yesterday I went out to do an errand wearing my computer glasses on instead of the usual. Since I can see distances without any glasses, I kept going, but several times called myself a ‘dummy’ for not paying attention. I don’t want to be a dummy when it comes to prayer. I want to hear You — in the Word, in wise and Spirit-filled people, and in Your gentle voice — and not think that my ideas are always the same as Your ideas. Keep me alert to You, and that means talking with You constantly — and listening to You instead of constantly wanting my own way.