Oblivious?

Some people are oblivious to their own selfishness. Sometimes I am, particularly if another person does things that harm me without realizing that the harm hit hard because what they did interfered with or made nothing out of what I wanted. If another person is rude to me by saying and doing what they know and intend to hurt, that is one thing, but if they are simply wanting their own way without thinking much about it, then what do I do? And I can be the one who is oblivious and thoughtlessly hurts others.

Retaliation is not allowed. That puts a further wedge in the relationship. Besides, if that is suitable, it is up to God to take revenge. Telling them (or me) they are sinning does not work either, because that is the role of the Holy Spirit. At times, I am so blind to my own sin that I cannot see it unless He reveals it. I’m usually shocked and ashamed, but until He opens my eyes, that sinful attitude might not be part of my awareness.

When Jesus came into this world, it is certain that most of the people were ignorant of the extent of their sin. He came to the Jews, God's chosen who considered their relationship with Him as His chosen made them right about everything. Christians can assume that too. But it is not true. Otherwise there would be no need for verses like these:

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. (Colossians 3:12–15)

This morning I read this prayer and then prayed it:

Lord, I’m more than a bit weary as the day begins. I feel tired, discouraged, listless, on edge, and uptight. I don’t know if I’ve tried to get too much done in too little time. I’m not sure about the spiritual warfare issues swirling about me; it could be the accuser whispering lies and condemnation. Perhaps it’s just that I’m getting older and I don’t have the same energy I used to have. It could just be the tension of life in the “already and not yet,” or maybe I’m trying to do life with too little sleep. Then again, possibly it’s just the groaning of birth pangs in my heart, so wanting to be much more like Jesus than I already am. Probably it’s all of the above. In any case, and every case, I look to you to encourage my heart and strengthen me for gospel deeds and words all this day long. I cast my care on you because I know you care for me. I pray in Jesus’ name, with thanksgiving and glad anticipation. Amen.

These words were written more than a decade ago, in another country, by a person I don’t know who is a pastor. He does not know me, but expressed exactly how I feel today, except that he is blaming himself rather than the actions of others. Yet it soothes my heart to know that others wake up the same way and have the same temptations. His words end by telling me that the answer is never a pity-party but alway looking to Jesus and casting my care on Him.

The Colossians passage is God speaking from the same source. He tells me that whether the other person is aware or oblivious, my task is to forgive, be kind, and patient, and remember that we are all fighting sin — and are in varying stages of realizing what our battles are all about. I need less frustration and far more compassion for others. 

PRAY: These verses quoted by the same author are what I need to say to You, Jesus. You are my Lord Jesus Christ, God and my Father. You love me and give me eternal comfort and good hope through grace. Comfort my heart and establish it in every good work and word. (2 Thessalonians 2:16–17) And work in those who seem oblivious to their selfishness as I often am. Bring unity to our hearts. Amen.